Moving in together – across country. Really?

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To move in or not to move in: that is the question

Sherry (admits to “over 50”) and Claude (62) met online. They exchanged four e-mails, enjoyed two lengthy phone calls, and on the first date, both were very carefully falling in love. They both like Woody Allen, Mountain Winery concerts, old San Francisco, traveling to Santa Fe for the opera, Carmel, Wagner, and visiting National Parks.

She likes fiction. He likes nonfiction.  He loves butter, cream, and eggs.  She’s more of an advocate for quinoa, vegetables, and exploring the aisles of Whole Foods. They were the same age, had been through painful divorces, had launched their kids, were finishing up careers and both were seriously thinking about retirement.

He has a condo in San Francisco on Nob Hill, a doorman, spectacular views of both bridges; rarely drives – walks everywhere, and knows San Francisco like the back of his hand She lives in a tiny cottage in Redwood City- with a charming garden, a hot tub – there is no lawn to mow, no big home to maintain, just sunny weather, parking galore, and she has privacy, solitude, and a huge deck for entertaining –which she does with great frequency. She belongs to a book club, a Pilates class, and volunteers at film festivals and the Museum – he says she has ‘a Rolodex full of girlfriends.’

She works from home for three very demanding clients.

A Moving Experience On their one-year anniversary, they drove north on Highway 101 to the Victorian village of Ferndale and explored the area and the beautiful redwood parks.  Over crab cocktails in Eureka he suggested she move into his spacious condo in San Francisco.  He had a second bedroom that could easily be made into her office or study.  He listed the many positive aspects of living in San Francisco – such an exciting location and – more importantly- of living together.

She was thinking of the whipping winds and fog rolling in, parking challenges, the din of the neighborhood, the claustrophobic feeling of being so close to your neighbors, no garden…her mental list of “cons” grew incrementally. She was very happy with their arrangement. They were together all weekend and one or two nights a week.

Two of her 50-ish friends had ‘living situations’ with beaus – they kept separate residences and saw one another frequently. The couples said they embraced their privacy and alone time and claimed they were very happy with the arrangements. She pondered.  Moving in together and moving away?  Then his boss offered him a position in Florida as VP of his department.  The assignment would be for 18 months with the caveat that he would return to San Francisco six times a year for meetings. The offer was a promotion with great benefits – and would most likely be his last position with the company. Thrilled at the prospect, he called and invited her to join him on this new adventure. She had been to Miami several times and  loved the exciting city.

As she started thinking about crowds, summers, the weather, and the distance from her family and her friends her mood changed.

Her best friend said, “Go for it! It’s only for a year or so and you’ll come back here every few months. Just do it. Candace, her neighbor – an Eileen Fisher model, 65, tango dancer with a shock of silver hair said, “Men? I go dancing once a week.  I just want to be in the arms of a man for one hour –and then go home to my cats and I’m happy.”  Another cat woman? She was dizzy with input from her myriad friends and her love for this man – who was kinder, more thoughtful and generous than anyone she had ever met. She looked forward to their weekends together and suffered withdrawal when he left her on Sunday evenings…

Things fall into place Her best friend from Del Mar  took an artist in residence gig at the Oakland Museum and needed a place to stay – voila: the perfect house sitter.  She told her clients of her plans. No one batted an eye. She had a family and best friends meeting and affirmed the news…

She spoke to her accountant, primary physician, and her hairdresser and – all systems were “go.” After one exhausting visit to South Florida – looking- locating and deciding on their new address – and much preparation- packing, planning, organizing -combined with several Going-Away-for-Awhile-Parties- the couple  was off.

Bon Voyage!

Let the adventure begin. Would you be as brave?

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He bragged: hundreds of Ex-girlfriends

He once bragged they could fill part of Yankee Stadium with all of his Ex-girlfriends.

A Big Part. Not counting the bleachers. Lower level. Odd rows only. 

The Guy could brag.

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On his online dating profile he bragged;

1. “I will be the greatest first date guy that God ever created.”

2.“I’m really rich! I’ll show ya when I see ya.. And by the way: I’m not even saying that in a brag.”

3.. “I will build a great wall . . . and nobody builds walls better than me, believe me.”

4. “Planning our first date? I would use the greatest minds. I know the best negotiators. I’m in New York — I know the good ones, the bad ones. I always say: ‘I know the ones people think are good.’ I know people you’ve never heard of that are better than all of them.”

Marie Clare kept track of the audacious and outrageous claims this dufus created.

people-1105593__340There is a difference between conceit and confidence.

Conceit is bragging about yourself.

Confidence means you believe you can get the job done.

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Totally bizarre

 

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Least Wise Steve King

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Wise kings generally have wise counselors;

and he must be a wise man himself

who is capable of distinguishing one.

Diogenes

 

“Steve King always speaks his mind – it never takes too long”

Al Franken is not joking, Jeff

Senator Franken released a statement on his website:

“Attorney General Jeff Sessions’ testimony in the Senate Intelligence Committee was very unsettling. We know that a hostile foreign power-Russia-sought to undermine our democracy by meddling in the 2016 presidential election. But our attorney general, who is the top law enforcement official in the country, and the rest of the Trump administration seem unconcerned by that disturbing truth. They seem to have collective amnesia about meeting with Russian officials during and after the campaign and only remember when they have been caught. They are not acting like a group of people with nothing to hide.

“I also think it’s very clear, despite what he attempted to assert in his testimony, that Attorney General Sessions wasn’t actually confused by my question during his January confirmation hearing. Rather, I believe he’s trying to downplay the gravity of and whitewash the fact that he misled the Senate Judiciary Committee under oath and failed to correct the record until he was forced to do so seven weeks later after reporting by the Washington Post.

“Here’s my message to Jeff Sessions: stop misleading the American public, stop making excuses, and start being more forthcoming. Come before the Senate Judiciary Committee to speak honestly and openly with those who you first misled.”

 

The top 8 best tips – finding a new dentist in Florida

Top 8 tips for selecting a new dentist: beware the red flags

New in town and looking for a dentist? We all know the 1-800 ads on TV are a flim-flam-scam, right?

Caveat Emptor. Statistically, 1000 people move to the perpetual Sunshine State of Florida every day.  Chances are they will be looking for a new complement of doctors – including a new dentist.

If you’re like me, you’ve had the same set of doctors for a couple of decades- tried and true, honest and then, bam! Here you are – starting anew.  How hard could it be to find a new DDS, right? It is a Herculean task. Get your head examined before this dental exam

 

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Pay close attention to these eight red flags when looking for new dentist in South Florida:

1.) Check out the dentist’s website – Is it full of flashing lights, long lists of potential procedures- lightening, brightening, Botox, Chemical Peels, braces? Does it look like a flashy boutique or a dental office? Is there a neon sign stating: Se habla español, French Canadian, and Urdu?

2.) If the office sends you a six-page questionnaire – pause.  Some South Florida dentist’s charge a whopping $90 consultation fee to review that questionnaire.  Fifteen minutes: $90? Go figure.

3.) Ka-ching! If the doctor owns his own building, is a solo practitioner, and has a private parking lot, wide-screen Tv’s in every room – I’ll let you guess who’s paying for that.

4.) There is no free…If you’re offered coffee or tea upon arrival in the office- guess who’s paying for that?

5.) Coming up roses? If after the procedure, you’re offered a long-stem pink rose… ask yourself that same nagging question.

6.) If after the procedure that Dr. says, “0h, by the way, now that I’m done, you might need a root canal on that tooth. How about a little bit of Botox? Pause. See those red flags?

7.) Hidden Fees? If you think that $90 Consultation fee before the procedure is a little- shall we say, redundant and inappropriate – and you ask for it to be waived in light of the costly procedure and they say, “No.” Pay attention to that.

8.) Hit me again? If the nurse tells you that your next appointment will cost an additional $130, just to inspect your mouth – big Red flag.

An older, wiser, dentist commented that these extraneous charges and multiple bells and whistles are because

that DDS is new and paying off his extraordinarily high tuition fees – or he has a new, second – or third wife.

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Beware of the sharks…

A bit of Botox while you get your teeth cleaned?

Mais oui! We do it all…Cavities and Chemical Peels- a deal!

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Dr Beri Beri

Love me, Tinder?

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Dreams of candlelight, roses, romance and rapture?

Avoid Tinder at all costs.

The Big Daddy of Online Dating, Barry Diller, the King of of IAC,  is the money behind a dozen of your favorite Dating Sites- including Match.com, Chemistry, OKCupid, Our Time, and Senior People Meet.

Diller’s latest game in town called Tinder (www.tinder.com) has an estimated 50 million users. Really.

Note: Most users are bewteen the ages of 18-35.

Confused by all the fuss about the word swipe?  

Of course you are! Webster will tell you Swipe means to steal, pilfer, lift. On the Dating Website, Tinder- it’s all about swiping.

Swipe Right if you like me? Check out  The How To Tinder and, Lordy, Good luck!

 

Tender

What is a Nut Job?

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