Moving in together – across country. Really?

The Golden Gate

To move in or not to move in: that is the question

Sherry (admits to “over 50”) and Claude (62) met online. They exchanged four e-mails, enjoyed two lengthy phone calls, and on the first date, both were very carefully falling in love. They both like Woody Allen, Mountain Winery concerts, old San Francisco, traveling to Santa Fe for the opera, Carmel, Wagner, and visiting National Parks.

She likes fiction. He likes nonfiction.  He loves butter, cream, and eggs.  She’s more of an advocate for quinoa, vegetables, and exploring the aisles of Whole Foods. They were the same age, had been through painful divorces, had launched their kids, were finishing up careers and both were seriously thinking about retirement.

He has a condo in San Francisco on Nob Hill, a doorman, spectacular views of both bridges; rarely drives – walks everywhere, and knows San Francisco like the back of his hand She lives in a tiny cottage in Redwood City- with a charming garden, a hot tub – there is no lawn to mow, no big home to maintain, just sunny weather, parking galore, and she has privacy, solitude, and a huge deck for entertaining –which she does with great frequency. She belongs to a book club, a Pilates class, and volunteers at film festivals and the Museum – he says she has ‘a Rolodex full of girlfriends.’

She works from home for three very demanding clients.

A Moving Experience On their one-year anniversary, they drove north on Highway 101 to the Victorian village of Ferndale and explored the area and the beautiful redwood parks.  Over crab cocktails in Eureka he suggested she move into his spacious condo in San Francisco.  He had a second bedroom that could easily be made into her office or study.  He listed the many positive aspects of living in San Francisco – such an exciting location and – more importantly- of living together.

She was thinking of the whipping winds and fog rolling in, parking challenges, the din of the neighborhood, the claustrophobic feeling of being so close to your neighbors, no garden…her mental list of “cons” grew incrementally. She was very happy with their arrangement. They were together all weekend and one or two nights a week.

Two of her 50-ish friends had ‘living situations’ with beaus – they kept separate residences and saw one another frequently. The couples said they embraced their privacy and alone time and claimed they were very happy with the arrangements. She pondered.  Moving in together and moving away?  Then his boss offered him a position in Florida as VP of his department.  The assignment would be for 18 months with the caveat that he would return to San Francisco six times a year for meetings. The offer was a promotion with great benefits – and would most likely be his last position with the company. Thrilled at the prospect, he called and invited her to join him on this new adventure. She had been to Miami several times and  loved the exciting city.

As she started thinking about crowds, summers, the weather, and the distance from her family and her friends her mood changed.

Her best friend said, “Go for it! It’s only for a year or so and you’ll come back here every few months. Just do it. Candace, her neighbor – an Eileen Fisher model, 65, tango dancer with a shock of silver hair said, “Men? I go dancing once a week.  I just want to be in the arms of a man for one hour –and then go home to my cats and I’m happy.”  Another cat woman? She was dizzy with input from her myriad friends and her love for this man – who was kinder, more thoughtful and generous than anyone she had ever met. She looked forward to their weekends together and suffered withdrawal when he left her on Sunday evenings…

Things fall into place Her best friend from Del Mar  took an artist in residence gig at the Oakland Museum and needed a place to stay – voila: the perfect house sitter.  She told her clients of her plans. No one batted an eye. She had a family and best friends meeting and affirmed the news…

She spoke to her accountant, primary physician, and her hairdresser and – all systems were “go.” After one exhausting visit to South Florida – looking- locating and deciding on their new address – and much preparation- packing, planning, organizing -combined with several Going-Away-for-Awhile-Parties- the couple  was off.

Bon Voyage!

Let the adventure begin. Would you be as brave?



Dumb and Dumber II?


Look, Daddy!


Seeking approval from Daddy.

I have yet to find the man, however exalted his station, who did not do better work and put forth greater effort under a spirit of approval than under a spirit of criticism.

Charles Schwab

Uncle Ryan Zinke says Shoot Dumbo now

Naturally, the many who loathe and detest Zinke –

call him “Stinky Zinke”

45  will allow Americans to bring tusks and other Elephant Body Parts back to the USA as “trophies.” His sons are happy.

This is a leap from the support 45 voiced last year for an Obama-era trophy ban.


The African elephant has been classified as threatened under the U.S. Endangered Species Act since 1979. A licensed two-week African elephant hunt can cost more than $50,000 per person, not including airfare, according to advertised rates.

Illicit demand for elephant ivory has led to devastating losses from illegal poaching as the natural habitat available for the animals to roam has also dwindled by more than half.

Under Zinke, an avid hunter, the Interior Department’s policies have become noticeably more pro-hunting. … the department took a step in June to potentially allow Grizzly Bears near Yellowstone National Park to be hunted.

And the Fish and Wildlife Service has begun allowing African Lions killed in Zimbabwe and Zambia to be imported, the AP reported.



Stinky Zinke in Trouble during Puerto Rico Tragedy

Remember: Whitefish Energy’s had quite a run: One week the two-person company from Whitefish, Montana (hometown of Trump Interior Secretary Ryan Zinke)

was awarded a $300M contract to help rebuild the power-grid in Puerto Rico, with some very favorable terms including $462/hour for subcontracted supervisors,

  • no penalties for nonperformance,
  • and a guarantee that the government wouldn’t audit its expenditures.
  • Smells fishy…


Wanna move to Florida? Read this first!

The Truth about Florida…

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IMG_0604Dear Myammy,

You have a good sense of humor. A pal sent me this about Life in Florida

(Written for people  60+ and others with a sense of humor.)

A few years ago, my wife and I moved into a retirement development on Florida ‘s southeast coast.  

Jerry Seinfield once said, “There is a law in New York that people over sixty must move to Florida.” It is intended to keep us seniors from becoming “Midtown Roadkill.”

We are living in the “Delray/ Boca/Boynton Golf, Spa, Bath and Tennis Club on Lake Fake-a-Hachee”.

Who knew? There are 3,000 lakes in Florida- only three are real.

blue-199261__180-2….gradual loss of…

Our biggest retirement concern was time management. What were we going to do all day?

Let me assure you, passing the time is not a problem.

Our days are eaten up by simple, daily activities. Just getting out of our…

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Wacko woman in FL rants

Lizzie Porter (R)  – of Florida has an axe to grind…she has been known to be uncompromising  and belligerent.



This Florida Lawmaker says,

We’ve been told to listen to children and do what they ask. Are there any children on this floor? Are they making laws? Do we allow children to tell us we should pass a law that says no homework? No. The adults make the laws.”

When do we drain the Swamp?




via Daily Prompt: Uncompromising

The 5 Elements: trinkets, wine, chocolate

Spend time and money in The Wine Country…

Myammy! Moving in together at 50...

A Trifecta Plus Two: My Top 5 in Napa


My idea of a perfect day is spending time and money in the Napa Valley.

Perfection would include The Five Elements: trinkets, wine, chocolate, massages, and golf.

happy-2220481__340-2#1 We call it the Disneyland Winery of St Helena and love to pop in for a flight of Cabernets at Hall winery. Check out the life-sized statue of the Albino Camel, the ginormous mosaic of old jeweled sweaters, the glowing red bathrooms, the eclectic gardens, clever signage…it’s a trip and we fly first glass…

A Duet: A Day in the Napa Valley is just not right without a stop at Mecca- aka Dean and Deluca for grande cups of the very best coffee and a mini loaf of the decadent Chocolate Babka. A sampling of exquisite picnic delectable is a must.

#3. Every Body loves The Bliss for the Body…

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“Your Wife is Hot” best billboard in South Florida

FLA ponders Climate Change…

Myammy! Moving in together at 50...

“Your wife is hot…

 Get your air conditioner fixed today”



Possibly, the most amusing billboard in all of South Florida has to do with the weather and Air Conditioning.

Go Figure.

How hot is it South Florida?

February 15, 2014

85 degrees and perpetual sunshine.

“Conversation about the weather is the last refuge of the unimaginative.”

Oscar Wilde

Welcome to my world….


Please See: Click here:Shall I compare thee to a Florida Summer’s Day


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NRA buys Texas

NRA is infamous for Throwing its support behind GOP primaries in Texas.


THE NRA Shopping for Clones: 

 thompson-submachine-gun-2878574__340-2The National Rifle Association /

Victory Fund has PURCHASED  Republican candidates in 13 primaries for Congressional races in Texas for 2018 so far.


  • 2nd Congressional – Kevin Roberts
  • 3rd Congressional – Van Taylor
  • 4th Congressional – John Ratcliffe*
  • 7th Congressional – John Culberson*
  • 10th Congressional – Mike McCaul*
  • 11th Congressional – K. Michael Conaway*
  • 14th Congressional – Randy K. Weber*
  • 22nd Congressional – Pete Olson*
  • 23rd Congressional – Will Hurd*
  • 24th Congressional – Kenny Marchant*
  • 26th Congressional – Michael C. Burgess*
  • 31st Congressional – John Carter*
  • 32nd Congressional – Pete Sessions*  
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