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All in the Family?!?

Please don’t hug me…

Lightly Lifted from Article written by esteemed Epidemologist

Although social distancing measures have been (at least temporarily) well-received, there is an obvious-but-overlooked phenomenon when considering groups (i.e. families) in transmission dynamics. 

While social distancing decreases contact with members of society, it typically increases your contacts with Family Members AND very close friends. 

This small and obvious fact has surprisingly Profound Implications on Disease Transmission dynamics. 

Study after study demonstrates that even if there is only a

 little bit of connection between groups 

(i.e. social dinners, playdates/playgrounds, etc.), 

the epidemic isn’t much different than 

if there was no measure in place. 

The same underlying fundamentals of disease transmission apply, 

AND the result is that the community is left with all of the social and economic disruption but very little public health benefit.

You should perceive your entire family to function as a single individual unit; 

if one person puts themselves at risk, everyone in the unit is at risk.

Seemingly small social chains get large and complex with alarming geometric speed

Somber, Sober Sane: read this

Please Read this by Yale Epidemiologist, Jonathan Smith:

As an infectious disease epidemiologist, at this point I feel morally obligated to provide some information on what we are seeing from a transmission dynamic perspective and how they apply to the social distancing measures. Like any good scientist I have noticed two things that are either not being articulated or not present in the “literature” of social media. I have also relied on my much smarter infectious disease epidemiologist friends for peer review of this post; any edits are from that peer review.

Specifically, I want to make two aspects of these measures very clear and unambiguous.

First, we are in the beginning of this epidemic’s trajectory. That means even with these distancing measures we will see cases and deaths continue to rise globally, nationally, and in our own communities in the coming weeks. This may lead some people to think that the social distancing measures are not working. They are. They may feel futile. They aren’t. You will feel discouraged. You should. This is normal in chaos. But this is normal epidemic trajectory. Stay calm. This enemy that we are facing is very good at what it does; we are not failing. We need everyone to hold the line as the epidemic inevitably gets worse.

This is not my opinion; this is the unforgiving math of epidemics for which I and my colleagues have dedicated our lives to understanding with great nuance, and this disease is no exception. 

I want to help the community brace for this impact. Stay strong and with solidarity knowing with absolute certainty that what you are doing is saving lives, even as people begin getting sick and dying. You may feel like giving in. Don’t.

 

All in the Family?!?

Please don’t hug me…

Although social distancing measures have been (at least temporarily) well-received, there is an obvious-but-overlooked phenomenon when considering groups (i.e. families) in transmission dynamics. 

While social distancing decreases contact with members of society, it typically increases your contacts with Family Members AND very close friends. 

This small and obvious fact has surprisingly Profound Implications on Disease Transmission dynamics. 

Study after study demonstrates that even if there is only a little bit of connection between groups 

(i.e. social dinners, playdates/playgrounds, etc.), 

the epidemic isn’t much different than 

if there was no measure in place. 

The same underlying fundamentals of disease transmission apply, 

AND the result is that the community is left with all of the social and economic disruption but very little public health benefit.

You should perceive your entire family to function as a single individual unit; 

if one person puts themselves at risk, everyone in the unit is at risk.

 

Seemingly small social chains get large and complex with alarming geometric speed:

If your son visits his girlfriend, and you later sneak over for coffee with a neighbor, your neighbor is now connected to the infected office worker that your son’s girlfriend’s mother shook hands with.    This sounds silly, it’s not. This is not a joke or a hypothetical. We as epidemiologists see it borne out in the data time and time again and no one listens. Conversely, any break in that chain breaks disease transmission along that whole chain.

In contrast to hand-washing and other personal measures, social distancing measures are not about individuals, they are about societies working in unison. These measures also take a long time to see the results. It is hard (even for me) to conceptualize how on a population level, ‘one quick little get together’ can undermine the entire framework of a public health intervention, but it does. I promise you it does.            I promise. I promise. I promise.

You can’t cheat it. People are already itching to cheat on the social distancing precautions just a “little”- a playdate, a haircut, or picking up a needless item at the store, etc. From a transmission dynamics standpoint, this very quickly recreates a highly connected social network that undermines all of the work the community has done so far.

Until we get a viable vaccine this unprecedented outbreak Will Not be Overcome in one grand, sweeping gesture, rather only by the collection of individual choices our community makes in the coming months. This virus is unforgiving to choices outside the rules.

My goal in writing this is to prevent communities from getting ‘sucker-punched’ by what the epidemiological community knows will happen in the coming weeks.

It will be easy to be drawn to the idea that what we are doing isn’t working and become paralyzed by fear, or to just‘cheat’ a little bit in the coming weeks.

By knowing what to expect, and knowing the importance of maintaining these measures, my hope is to encourage continued community spirit, strategizing, and action to persevere in this time of uncertainty.

Jonathan is a lecturer in Epidemiology of Microbial Diseases and Global Health at Yale University School of Public Health.

 

Shelter in place and Wash your Hands

Handwashing is one of the best ways to protect yourself and your family from getting sick.

Learn when and how you should wash your hands to stay healthy.

~~~~~Wash Your Hands Often to Stay Healthy~~~~

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You can help yourself and your loved ones stay healthy by washing your hands often, especially during these key times when you are likely to get and spread germs:

  • Before, during, and after preparing food

  • Before eating food

  • Before and after caring for someone at home who is sick with vomiting or diarrhea

  • Before and after treating a cut or wound

  • After using the toilet

  • After changing diapers or cleaning up a child who has used the toilet

  • After blowing your nose, coughing, or sneezing

  • After touching an animal, animal feed, or animal waste

  • After handling pet food or pet treats

  • After touching garbage

PLEASE      Keep SIX FEET AWAY

Check out- Thanksgiving in the Tropics?

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“Over the river and through the woods to grandmothers house we go…

Is now:

“Over the water and Alligator Alley, through the Everglades we go…hark! there’s a python, a gator and…sunshine!

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Phrase never uttered in FL:Cute as a bug

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The perpetually Sunshine State may be all about miles of white sandy beaches, warm aquamarine waters, and stately palm trees but, it also is the

Bug Capital of the Region.

“La Cucaracha” was a song we sang in 8th grade Spanish class. Here, they are your roommates.

Our backyard is a vast tropical expanse.  There are a dozen palm trees of varying sizes and a massive Star Fruit tree that drops bitter yellow blobs at an alarming rate.

Forget about sitting quietly and meditating while gazing upon this lush, green paradise.  Everywhere you look, slithering on every tree, table, chair fencepost -are lizards, geckos and chameleons and the occasional black snake.   They say the snakes are benign and supposedly good luck,  however, that rising up like a Cobra-thing they do before they dart and gobble up lizards is gross.

Early on, the perpetual optimist, I thought I might take up gardening, and tame our backyard.  Naïvely, I gently lifted a dangling vine, only to uncover a huge, shiny, 3-inch, brightly colored red and green bug.  All aspirations for gardening ended then and there…

To the mall and beyond!

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Overheard at the Miami doctor’s office

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There were two women sitting across from one another, at a famed Miami Plastic Surgery suite of offices.

Both were thumbing through glossy magazines and chatting while glancing up at the long list of   “Miami’s Dr. Marvelous’ Menu of Augmentations and Services” dancing on the huge, sleek, black, wide screen TV across from them.

Le Menu:

Breast Augmentation – Breast Lift | Breast Reconstruction – Breast Reduction – Brazilian Butt Lift-  Liposuction | Male Breast Reduction – Nipple Procedures – Tummy Tuck – Mommy Makeover  – Ear Surgery –  Eyelid Surgery – Facelift – Facial Implants | Forehead/Brow Lift | Fat Grafting | Necklift | Nose Surgery | Hand Rejuvenation | Injectable Facial Fillers | Laser Skin Resurfacing ….

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Woman #1 Says: There are two things you never ask for in this office.

Woman #2 Says: Really? Tell me – this is my first time.

Woman #1 (without missing a beat) Says: “Never ask for a ‘Kim Novak’ or a ‘Liza Minnelli’

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Women helping Women

one day at a time…

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Florida actually celebrates reptiles? Really?

 In Florida: a Celebration of Reptiles? Really?

The special event, celebrating amphibians, called ‘Repticon’ was held in lovely Fort. Lauderdale – what’s wrong with this picture?

It was dubbed  “Florida Reptile and Alternative Pet Show.”

You ask: How could there be a reptile event featuring vendors offering reptile pets, supplies, feeders, cages, and merchandise in Florida where lizards, geckos and their cousins freely slither, slide and glide in front yards, back yards, on your trees, fences and lawn furniture?

Touted as “Exciting, educational, family-oriented fun for everyone!”- unless you have an aversion to creepy, spooky, slimy, chilling creatures.

Welcome to Florida.

Shall we dance?

See: Lizards, Geckos…Oh, no!

 

 

Are You Afraid of Valentine’s Day?

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February 14th strikes fear in the hearts of many singles…

Do funny valentines and flirty poems freak you out?  Do red, velvet, heart-shaped boxes and long stemmed red roses cause your heart to pitter patter, your mouth to go dry and flop-sweat to appear out of nowhere?

Relax, Binkie – there’s an App for that.

The following top 10 list of fears – not so much

Here are: The Top 10 Common Fears Known to Single Men & Women

1. Isolophobia – the fear of being alone
2. Athazagoraphobia – the fear of being forgotten
3. Gamophobia – the fear of marriage
4. Mageirocophobia – the fear of cooking
5. Sexophobia – the fear of the opposite sex
6. Gynophobia – the fear of women
7. Hominophobia – the fear of men
8. Clinophobia – the fear of going to bed
9. Homilophobia – the fear of sermons
10. Nyctophobia- the fear of the dark or night
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I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection. ‘Tis the business of little minds to shrink, but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.”    Thomas Paine

Remember:Valentines Day is a day of fun, flirting, and the very day  to Blame Cupid for all your romantic notions and emotions.

Wear Red, Smile at Strangers and share kisses (Hershey’s… or your own)

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Moving: Uh oh! The Comcast Debacle

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FACT:   There are enough Comcast criticisms, battles, blitzes, and atrocities to fill a dozen blogs.

I am not going to bore you with the egregious details of our move…

I am going to give you The Gift of Information…

Do you have a Comcast Challenge?

Here is the Comcast Solution:

Send an Email with the following information

Name:

Account:

Account number

  • Full name
  • Service address
  • Best contact phone number and time to call

A description of the problem: 

 Send the email with with the above information to:

we_can_help@cable.comcast.com

A Comcast problem resolution specialist should contact you to follow up.

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Moving out of state and together? At 50?

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Open Up Your Golden Gate….

To move in or not to move in: that was the question

Sherry (admits to “over 50”) and Claude (62) met online. They exchanged four e-mails, enjoyed two lengthy phone calls, and on the first date, both were very carefully falling in love.

They both like opera, Mountain Winery concerts, old San Francisco, traveling to Santa Fe for the opera, Carmel-by-the-Sea, Wine Tasting events, and visiting National Parks.  She likes fiction. He likes nonfiction.  He loves butter, cream, and eggs.  She’s more of an advocate for quinoa, vegetables, and exploring the aisles of Trader Joe’s and Whole Foods. He cooks – she prefers dining out.

They were around same age, had been through painful divorces, had launched their kids, were finishing up careers and both were seriously thinking about retirement. He has a condo in San Francisco on Nob Hill, a doorman, spectacular views of both bridges; rarely drives – walks everywhere, and knows San Francisco like the back of his hand. His office is one of the top floors of the towering Bank of America on California Street.

She lives in a tiny cottage in Redwood City- with a charming garden, a hot tub – there is no lawn to mow, no big home to maintain, just sunny weather, parking galore, and she has privacy, solitude, and a huge deck for entertaining –which she does with great frequency. She belongs to a book club, a Pilate’s class, and volunteers at film festivals and the Museum – he says she has ‘a Rolodex full of girlfriends.’

She works from home for three very delightful and demanding clients in Atherton.

A Moving Experience:  On their one-year anniversary, they drove north on Highway 101 to the Victorian village of Ferndale and explored the area and the beautiful redwood parks.  Over crab cocktails at VI Restaurant he suggested she move into his spacious condo in San Francisco.  He had a second bedroom that could easily be made into her office or study.  He listed the many positive aspects of living in San Francisco – such an exciting location and – more importantly- of living together. She was thinking of the whipping winds and fog rolling in, parking challenges, the din of the neighborhood, the claustrophobic feeling of being so close to your neighbors, no garden…her mental list of “cons” grew incrementally. She was very happy with their arrangement. They were together all weekend and one or two nights a week. Two of her 50-ish friends had ‘living situations’ with beaus – they kept separate residences and saw one another frequently. The couples said they embraced their privacy and alone time and claimed they were very happy with the arrangements. She pondered.

Moving in together and moving away?  Then his boss offered him a position in Miami, Florida as VP of his department.  The assignment would be for 18 months with the caveat that he would return to San Francisco six times a year for meetings. The offer was a promotion with great benefits – and would most likely be his last position with the company. Thrilled at the prospect, he called and invited her to join him on this new adventure. She had been to Florida several times and liked the beaches, Art Deco architecture and Cuban Food, As she started thinking about the humidity, the traffic, the density, the severe summer weather, and the distance from her family and her friends her mood changed. Her best friend said, “Go for it! It’s only for a year or so and you’ll come back here every few months. Just do it. Candace, her neighbor – an Eileen Fisher model, 65, tango dancer with a shock of silver hair said, “Men? I go dancing once a week.  I just want to be in the arms of a man for one hour –and then go home to my cats and I’m happy.”  Another cat woman?

She was dizzy with input from her myriad friends and her love for this man – who was kind, thoughtful and more spiritual than anyone she had ever met.

 Things fall into place Her best friend from Albuquerque took an artist in residence gig at the Oakland Museum and needed a place to stay – voila: the perfect house sitter. 

She told her clients of her plans. She heard a lot of “Oh! no! What will we do?” comments punctuated with hugs and “Please don’t go.” requests.  She had a best friends meeting and they balked at the news… They asked if she wasn’t  little too quick to make a decision of this  importance. Her “Besties” were friends for decades who knew Mr Right and had googled him diligently. They urged her to slow down…not to throw the baby out with the bathwater and go to FLorida to visit – not live. A Bi-coastal relationship would be the perfect test.

Testing 1,2,3,

After one exhausting visit to Miami and the environs – the traffic, the heat, the miles and miles of strip malls, the infamous Seniors – worst drivers in the state and alarming stories about alligators and high rate of crime was enough to have her go for the BiCoastal Route

She would remain in California and he would fly home every couple of weeks.

Time would test the strength of their relationship.