Category Archives: Suddenly not Single

Online Dating Success: First Step

             

Online dating 101: You must be present to win

Oh, no, you don’t!

You can’t sign up for an online dating site and just sit back and hope to deluged with emails, paeans, love letters and accolades.

You have to get in the game. There is only one rule

Rule #1. Put time and energy into the pursuit. That means – every day – you sit down at your computer and open all the emails the dating company inundates you with – scan, read, toss. Repeat. Do read the profiles, review the “perfect matches” and be open to meeting new people.

 Play Ball!

Think of a football stadium with thousands of cheering fans. It really is a blur of faces, right? Well, truth be told – your virgin voyage on the high seas of Suddenly Single Again and Dating is like a football stadium and your goal is to get noticed. There are hundreds of singles – just like you- online.

How do you stand out? Who does the TV cameraman zoom in on?

 At a televised football games – the cameraman is seeks out quirky, crazy, and cute people and “interesting photo ops.                                 .”

Yes, the Whack-a-delic guy-with no shirt and the colorful clown wig gets a lot of attention.

And, the guys who paint their bodies with Day-Glo paint get noticed. However, the friendly, animated, fan with the big smile, and the really enthusiastic, passionate fan get airtime, too. You want airtime.

 

Do not post a photo of you five, ten or 20 years ago. Skip the French Maid or Batman Halloween costume. What about the hilarious Christmas Sweater photo? Not so funny.   Yes, all of the above get attention but, it is the wrong kind of attention.

 Your goal in the Dating Game – is to follow Rule #1: Get in the game, reach out, be open to new people. Skip the kinky and bizarre and you will be in the game before you know it.

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Ready, Set, Done!

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Hello? Remember The First Rule of Valentine’s Day

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If a woman tells you she doesn’t want anything

for Valentine’s Day…do not believe her.

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Psst! Remember this secret:

When in doubt…over do Valentine’s gifts, baubles, trinkets, sweets, Bubbly…

To err is human

to overcompensate is

Divine!

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Diamonds are a

Diamonds are a girl’s best …

 

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There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.

George Sand

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your Favorite Christmas Carol? Here’s Mine

Aloha   and 

Mele MELE Kalikimaka is the word to say
On a bright Hawaiian Christmas day
That’s the island greeting that we send to you
From the land where palm trees sway

Here we know that Christmas will be green and bright
The sun to shine by day and all the stars at night
Mele Kalikimaka is Hawaii’s way
To say Merry Christmas to you

Mele Kalikimaka is the word to say
On a bright Hawaiian Christmas day
That’s the island greeting that we send to you
From the land where palm trees sway

Here we know that Christmas will be green and bright
The sun to shine by day and all the stars at night
Mele Kalikimaka is Hawaii’s way
To say Merry Christmas to you

Here we know that Christmas will be green and bright
The sun to shine by day and all the stars at night
Mele Kalikimaka is Hawaii’s way
To say Merry Christmas to you

Mele Kalikimaka is the word to say
On a bright Hawaiian Christmas day
That’s the island greeting that we send to you
From the land where palm trees sway

Here we know that Christmas will be green and bright
The sun to shine by day and all the stars at night
Mele Kalikimaka is Hawaii’s way
To say Merry Christmas
A very Merry Christmas
A very, very, Merry,Merry Christmas to you

Songwriters
R. ALEX ANDERSON

Mele Kalikimaka (Hawaiian Christmas Song) – YouTube
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Millionaire Paul Ryan – angry at old people – to kill Medicare?

Psst…Paul Ryan – ain’t no altar boy.

Paul Ryan, 42, was born into one of the most prominent families in Janesville, Wis.     He is the son of a very successful attorney and the grandson of the top federal prosecutor for the western region of the state.

Ryan grew up in a expansive Colonial house on a large wooded lot, and his extended clan includes investment managers, corporate executives and owners of major construction companies.                                    

He lived a very comfortable life.

He is worth $7.6 million

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Is millionaire Paul Ryan is angry at his parents, grand parents

and his in-laws? Or, just all old people?

 

Paul Ryan, 42, was born into one of the most prominent families in Janesville, Wis.    

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In the year after his father’s death, Ryan’s grandmother set up the Ryan-Hutter Investment Partnership, with assets of up to half a million dollars, according to the congressman’s 2011 financial disclosure.

Ryan continues as the general partner running the entity for the family.

By the time Ryan had entered Congress in 1999 at the age of 28 and filed his first disclosure statement, he reported assets between $167,000 and $1.3 million, owned a home and had three rental units.

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Mr. Ryan reported two tax-deferred college savings plans, with a combined value of between $150,000 and $300,000.

He also reported two investment partnerships worth, in total, between $350,000 and $750,000, mostly containing shares of stock in well-known companies, including Apple, Goodrich, Kraft Foods, Visa and Whole Foods.

Both partnerships were formed by Mr. Ryan and other family members to manage assets left by his grandparents and an aunt.

Mrs. Ryan has reported receiving a trust after her mother died in 2010 that is valued between $1 million and $5 million, according to a letter Mr. Ryan filed with his latest financial disclosure.

Mrs. Ryan also has longstanding interests in several mining and oil exploration investments in Oklahoma and Texas managed by her father, Dan Little, a lawyer in Oklahoma whose clients include oil and gas companies.

Those investments generated as much as $150,000 in income last year.

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Of the Ryans’ maximum estimated assets of $7.6 million,

 

Janna’s holdings account for about $6.5 million.

She is the daughter of Dan and Prudence Little, two lawyers in Madill, Okla., who over the years have overseen a vast network of land and oil and gas mineral rights in the Red River area straddling southern Oklahoma and northern Texas.

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Seniors Retired after 50 yr careers Living on Social Security / Medicare…

Why is he so vindictive? Does he have a long list of “his parents didn’t buy him the bike he wanted, he got punished for bad grades, or he caught caught cheating and stealing from the collection basket?”

Paul Ryan is so out of touch.

He wants to delete Medicare.

Ryan can drop the altar boy facade. He  is a classic “Thou doth protest too much” attack dog politician with ulterior motives.

U.S. President-elect Donald Trump (L) meets with Speaker of the House Paul Ryan (R-WI) (C) and Vice-President elect Mike Pence on Capitol Hill in Washington, U.S., November 10, 2016. REUTERS/Joshua Roberts

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Going to a party? Top 5 Flirting Tips

simple, smart, succinct…sexy.

It doesn’t take a genius to Master the Art of Flirting

Do this! Here are five very effective Flirting Techniques:

#1. Look – The eyes have it: The first tip of successful flirting involves Eye Contact. Let’s say you see somebody you think is attractive. Let your eyes linger- just for a bit.  Smile, look back,  and don’t look away.

#2. Laugh – Everybody likes to think they have a great sense of humor. If you want to score points and attention- laugh at the witty statement be them corny or funny. 

#3. Listen – Everyone wants to be heard. When this new person is speaking, listen to what they have to say while looking them in the eyes. Keen flirtatious listening always involves eye contact.

#4. The touch of love– just like the song. A surefire connection is as simple as a light touch on the wrist, elbow, or arm during the course of the conversation.  Amy G tells every guy she meets, “You are so funny.” and she places her hand on his. Home run every time.

#5. Put your hands on your hips. This classic Body Language 101 tells it all – You are open and interested and available. If you don’t like the person, very often we cross our hands over our chest which is the international language for “You’re not doing it for me. I’m about to leave.” The way you stand- facing the person next to-you  not turned away- speaks volumes. Try it.

 

Don’t do this on first date

 

Oops, I did it again! Two Big dating mistakes

 

Too much, too soon, too fast – That long and flirty exchange of e-mails – for a week or two- is a big mistake.

Texting back and forth all day long before your first date is a huge Dating Blunder -unless you are looking for a pen pal.  Expectations grow and grow and become way out of proportion. Way.

You expect a sexy, flirty Brad Pitt kind of a guy. Your name is Penny and you are petite, with long dark hair and he expects Penelope Cruz or a perfect Barbie Doll…

Sometimes when you meet, face-to-face those grandiose expectations fall flat.  Texting pithy one-liners is not the same as carrying on a conversation.

 Nuts!

Exchanging ideas and dreams – pre first date?  Don’t waste your time and valuable time and energy with fabulous flirting via e-mail.

Keep your eyes open – it is so easy to get blinded by a crush – sometimes we forget the goal is to carefully, nonchalantly, check a person out.

Meeting for cocktails– Maybe you think that a first date should be for smart cocktails at a glam joint. It sounds sexy and fun and you love going to Union Square…

 

One drink is a great idea.  Two drinks could be okay…three- are generally pushing it, and anything beyond that – is a very bad idea. Why?

Your brain will be murky by Makers Mark or clouded by Clos de chardonnay – and you will be compromised and vulnerable; your standards will have dissipated and your “Top 10 Things I’m Looking for in a Date” flies out the window when a modicum of charm, and champagne cocktails blind you.

Take it easy. Take your time. Set limits.

 

Don’t think twice…

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Visitors to Florida are usually keen to see an alligator.

There are myraid opportunities to visit Gator farms, Alligator museums and infamous  Gator displays.

Then, there is the unexpected shock of walking near a lake, lagoon, or a pond only to see a “sleeping” gator sunning herself…ready to strike when a pair of white legs walk by.

If ever there was a time to exercise caution – it is near one of those bodies of water which look so appealling for a quick swim.

Who know what lurks beneath those dark and murky waters?  Best Advice? Skip the temptation.

“Don’t taunt the alligator until after you’ve crossed the creek.”

Dan Rather
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