Oops, I did it again! Two Big dating mistakes
Too much, too soon, too fast – That long and flirty exchange of e-mails – for a week or two- is a big mistake.
Texting back and forth all day long before your first date is a huge Dating Blunder -unless you are looking for a pen pal. Expectations grow and grow and become way out of proportion. Way.
You expect a sexy, flirty Brad Pitt kind of a guy. Your name is Penny and you are petite, with long dark hair and he expects Penelope Cruz or a perfect Barbie Doll…
Sometimes when you meet, face-to-face those grandiose expectations fall flat. Texting pithy one-liners is not the same as carrying on a conversation.
Exchanging ideas and dreams – pre first date? Don’t waste your time and valuable time and energy with fabulous flirting via e-mail.
Keep your eyes open – it is so easy to get blinded by a crush – sometimes we forget the goal is to carefully, nonchalantly, check a person out.
Meeting for cocktails– Maybe you think that a first date should be for smart cocktails at a glam joint. It sounds sexy and fun and you love going to Union Square…
One drink is a great idea. Two drinks could be okay…three- are generally pushing it, and anything beyond that – is a very bad idea. Why?
Your brain will be murky by Makers Mark or clouded by Clos de chardonnay – and you will be compromised and vulnerable; your standards will have dissipated and your “Top 10 Things I’m Looking for in a Date” flies out the window when a modicum of charm, and champagne cocktails blind you.
Take it easy. Take your time. Set limits.